when the time comes.....

how does it all end?
how do u want it to end?
how do u want all those around you to treat the whole thing?
typically, in many tradditional families, its met with lots of sadness and this continues on to a drone like mode to perform a list of activities dictated by our ancestors.
This week, i was pleasently surprised at how wife's relatives are treating the whole thing when one of their own is taken away.
There is the usual sorrow and tears, but there is an unusual amount of sharing, caring, happiness, joy and even laughter.
Its because they think back on the happier times which they had shared with wife's aunt, how she used to be and how vibrant and caring she was before cancer's repeated attacks on her body.
Her aunt passed on Monday(09/02/2009) morning and the usual activities that are to be done are now being done. However there will be unusual tweaks to the norm that the family will be planning. For example, playing Aunt LF's favourite music and even another party to celebrate her life with all her favourite foods.
Such is their way of dealing with a passing of someone dear. Such is their celebration of life, celeration of her life and how our lives are enriched by hers.
Such is how i hope to be remembered as well when the time comes....