my breath fogged up the glass.

so i drew a new face and i laughed.

and that's just jason mraz's easy-to-understand way of saying what randy pausch preached before he passed on...

"we cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand."

people often question why things happen, more so when the bad comes a'knockin' than when the good calls.

i wonder why. because if people question the bad because they want to avoid it, then shouldn't they question the good as well to keep it at hand?

in any case, this post isn't about questions. it's about not questioning.

i've realized (post-snuffy hubby) that when i stop questioning what happens to me and just act upon the acceptance of the facts, i feel a lot happier.

it's like when you analyze the facts of a case, you take them as they are, and recommend solutions based on those facts.

this does not mean that i've stopped questioning. in fact, i'm doing that a lot more critically these days.

but sometimes, when it comes to something i can't make sense of through reasoning, i just accept it and deal with it. because if i keep questioning, then i'd be wasting too many resources on that. and i may be left with just a smidgeon of that to deal with the issue in question.

so when it comes down to that, i'd prefer to look forward, and not spend too much time on the past.

i learnt this after watching randy pausch's last lecture, and i will practise this for as long as i live.

thank goodness for a partner who has embraced this as much as i do.